Guest Blogger: Wendy Saw at www.WendySaw.com

Living in the Solution

I was introduced to the concept of living in the solution recently in a seminar I attended. It is not something new to me; however, by the end of the fifth day, I was totally in love with the concept.

The seminar emphasized the use of simple movement patterns to stimulate the neurological system to accomplish a task with greater joy and ease. This technique can easily be applied in a variety of mental and physical challenges including autism, cerebral palsy, attention deficit hyperactive disorder (ADD or ADHD), Angelman's Syndrome, speech impairment, brain injuries, blindness, deafness, and even impairments caused by strokes.

Among the attendees that day was a child with autistic symptoms and a gentleman with Parkinson's symptoms (I don't like to label anyone with any condition, so I use the word symptoms behind all type of dis-ease) visited our class and experienced the technique. It was so exciting to see the dramatic change in both of these people within an hour!

In addition to the mind-blowing simple techniques I just learned, my second biggest take-away was 'live in the solution.'

Living in the Solution with Cate Collins
 

Living in the Solution is about shifting your focus

 

I don't know about you; I have a habit of asking 'why' even though I fully understand that asking 'why' is not the question that needs answering. As a practitioner who works with the conscious mind, I have a good understanding of how our conscious mind functions. So, when we ask the question 'why,' we invite the brain to search for answers to why it is or what it is.




Our conscious mind will come up with all kinds of reasons or justifications 'why' it happened.

 

 

This type of question doesn't lead to solutions but keeps us in a closed-loop and can easily lead us to feeling like a victim.

Living in the Solution and learning to ask the right question

Living in the solution and asking new questions can re-train the brain to work in harmony with the body again and reminds me of Bio Energetic Synchronization Techniques (B.E.S.T.). Re-training the patterns unlocks the power.

As I left the training last week I was grateful to be reminded of the power of living in the solution. Remembering to ask the right questions can invite the right answers rather than going into the patterned loop of old stories. Instead of asking why or how, perhaps we can ask 'what can I do differently....or what would it take...' to invite the solution?

The I Ching Systems Instruments represent a new, cutting edge technology designed to bring emotional balance into your life. Find out for yourself and read HERE.

Instead of asking why you have a challenge, go look for a B.E.S.T. practitioner in your area and unlock the power locked within.

This is so empowering! Let's start living in the solution by practicing asking the right question today!

Disclaimer:  Our instruments are for experimental purposes only, and the FDA has not approved/evaluated these tools, resources, recommendations, and/or aids. All products, procedures, and information are not intended to diagnose, treat, mitigate, prevent, and/or cure any disease. None of the products, procedures, and information replaces or substitutes for the advice of a practicing medical doctor. See a qualified practicing MD for any disease or medical condition.

It’s All About the Math!!!

Each time you have a conversation with a friend or colleague, you are seeking to resolve an equation. Some relationships are filled with unresolved equations.

We are all in the business of resolving equations every day. In the simplest terms, you are

resolving an equation when you consider what to have for dinner. You are resolving the
equation for what will add up to a satisfying meal for you on that day. Each time you have a
conversation with a friend or colleague, you are seeking to resolve an equation. Let’s say
you call your best friend and you talk on the phone for a while. Then, you both instinctively
sense that the conversation is coming to a natural ending. You each find a way to say goodbye that, hopefully, keeps each of you in a balanced place. When both parties end up in a neutral place, we could say the conversation has resulted in a resolved equation.

There are times when we all have conversations that end in an unresolved place. There is a
cashier at my local supermarket who comes from a place of trying to find fault with other
people. She is probably imitating a parent who found fault with her as a child. When
customers come through her checkout aisle, she makes disapproving faces at them and often criticizes the way the customers have placed the groceries on the counter. Many customers, who are sensitive to the cashier’s disapproving tones, will leave the store with emotional imbalances. They will be caught in unresolved equations. The cashier feels some relief each time she criticizes a customer because she has managed to pass off her emotional imbalance on to her customer. But, even the cashier is caught in an unresolved equation because, no matter how many customers she criticizes, she will not be able to resolve the bad feelings she has about herself as a result of growing up with a parent who disapproved of her. This cashier could disapprove of a thousand customers, a million customers, or a hundred million customers and she would still be caught trying to get away from bad feelings about herself that she acquired growing up with a critical parent.

Some relationships are filled with unresolved equations. Bill and Susan have a conflicted
relationship. Two to three times a week they argue very aggressively, which for them is a
substitute for having sex. They yell back and forth at each other and usually end up in
separate rooms in the house, each feeling self-righteous. These conversations end in
unresolved equations, meaning that each party is in a state of emotional imbalance.

Let’s stop for a moment and trace these unresolved equations. Susan grew up in a family
where children were literally seen and not heard. In order to survive and feel safe, children
have to be heard. Parents are supposed to listen to their children and do the best they can to meet the children’s needs. When this does not happen, the child is left with an unresolved
equation or what might also be described as a chronic emotional imbalance. Furthermore,
the child is also thrown into a position of chronically trying to resolve that emotional
imbalance.

For Susan, her survival depended on being able to find a way to get noticed. So Susan
developed a system of escalating her voice and the expression of her needs until someone
paid attention to her. Her system was flawed because the attention that she did receive was
often negative in the form of her parents telling her to be quiet. For Susan, being yelled at
was better than being unnoticed. Now Susan is a grownup but she is still caught trying to
resolve the emotional imbalances from childhood. She has developed a system for trying to
resolve this condition, but her system always leads her back into the same unresolved place.

Susan yells at Bill until he yells back. Then when Bill can’t take any more yelling, Susan
goes off to be alone exactly as she did when she was a child. Ironically, when Susan

escalates into an argument with Bill, she is actually trying to tell him that she is interested in
having sex. Bill just feels attacked. He tries to defend himself but is usually intimidated by
Susan’s loud voice, so he is unable to discern what she is trying to tell him.

Bill grew up in a family with an alcoholic mother. His mother was volatile and often yelled
at the children when she got drunk. Bill learned very early on to do his best to hide from his
mother when she was drunk. But on two occasions, his mother beat him for very minor
mistakes that Bill had made. Bill learned to hide his feelings and to spend time alone in his
room just for safety. Parents are supposed to make sure that children feel safe and secure.
Yet, Bill lived with a mother who threatened his very survival. These conditions left Bill
with an unresolved mathematical equation. When Susan yells at Bill, he is thrown back into
this emotionally unbalanced place. He yells back at Susan because he tells himself that he
should stand up for himself. But in the end, he backs down because he feels afraid of what
Susan might do or say. Bill also ends up in a room alone just as he did when he was a child,
waiting for Susan to calm down just as he waited for his mother to sober up.

The big question then arises. Can these equations be resolved? The binary math codes found in the 64 I Ching Hexagrams, in our opinion, are the math codes needed for resolution to take place for some people. Unresolved equations create emotional imbalances. We think these unresolved imbalances keep people from fulfilling their destinies. Emotional imbalances consume time and energy and create discomfort. Certainly these ideas are food for thought and well worth some exploration in our lives.

Every I Ching Systems instrument is built with the intention of resolving imbalances and
helping you become the “Witness” to your own life. Real transformation occurs when you
can get off the stage of life and take a seat in the audience. It is the place where you become the observer of your life, the objective, non-judgmental Witness to your own condition. And, it is the Witness in you who can transform your life. Sometimes people need help getting off that stage. Our instruments might be what are needed to change the patterns within families and on the job so that at the end of each day you find yourself in a state of emotional equilibrium with all equations resolved.

Disclaimer:  Our instruments are for experimental purposes only, and the FDA has not approved/evaluated these tools, resources, recommendations, and/or aids. All products, procedures, and information are not intended to diagnose, treat, mitigate, prevent, and/or cure any disease. None of the products, procedures, and information replaces or substitutes for the advice of a practicing medical doctor. See a qualified practicing MD for any disease or medical condition.

Bullies Equal Scared Kids

The thing that makes bullying so chronic is that the Bully never faces his or her own fears.

In recent decades, bullying has become a more serious problem in our schools and neighborhoods. I would like to talk to you about the psychodynamics of bullying. First I must say that I have been in mental health for more than 40 years. I have had many opportunities to both observe and study human behavior, including bullying. The following are my opinions and observations gathered over the years and are not intended as recommendations for any treatment pathways.

I can tell you beyond a doubt that fear is the most powerful and most dominant of all human
emotions. This is true across countries, cultures and societies around the globe. The healthiest people in any society are the least frightened and most able to act on their own behalf in all life situations, whether people around them approve of them or not. On the opposite end of that spectrum are the people who are most frightened and, in the extreme, suffer from the most serious forms of mental illness. Their lives are set up around managing fear and at the expense of people around them, in extreme cases.

The people with the least amounts of fear come from a place described by Thomas A. Harris
MD, author of I’M OK-YOU’RE OK, as living in just that place, the place where I am okay
with myself and other people are okay as they are with me. The next level down on the Fear
Spectrum is the I AM NOT OKAY but YOU ARE OKAY place. The third level down is
where bullies live. They live in the I’M OKAY and YOU ARE NOT OKAY place. This is a
difficult world to live in, because in order to manage one’s own fear at this level, you must
work at keeping other people feeling afraid. So, instead of living a natural, healthy life, you
must find people to bully and intimidate so that you can feel okay about yourself inside.
Bullying is a form of Fear Management.


On the surface, one might easily conclude that the
person being bullied is clearly the frightened individual. However, at a closer glance, the psychodynamics of bullying become more evident. The person being bullied is afraid or shy, or a bit unusual, and therefore an obvious target. But the Bully is in the business of
chronically seeking people to bully and chronically expending resources to pass off his or her own fears on to someone else. The thing that makes bullying so chronic is that the Bully never faces his or her own fears. Rather, the bully devotes his or her life to getting someone else to feel those fears. Bullying is like a game of “hot potato.” You feel afraid and go out and find someone to scare. Thus the other person feels the fear and you present yourself as being tough and strong. Bullies are very frightened people, whether they live in grown-up bodies or children’s bodies.


The world of the Bully is a very sad world indeed. It is sad because the Bully is not only
chronically managing his or her fear, but also because they are so difficult to treat
therapeutically. They never present themselves as scared. They live in the I’M OKAY and
YOU’RE NOT OKAY place. So, for all practical purposes there is nothing wrong with
them. Parents have some ability to stop their children from bullying. But, doing so requires an
extraordinary parent who is willing to absolutely not allow his or her child to be a Bully.
The dynamics of the families of most Bullies often support the Bully tactics, so there is very
little commitment on the part of the parents to stop the Bully behavior. In fact, in some
families the children are carrying the fear of their parents and passing that fear off as Bullies
on behalf of their parents. Complex, but quite obvious, when you watch human behavior
long enough.

Children being bullied are very treatable. If they are young, they need their parents to stand up for them and behind them one hundred per cent, in my opinion. Never, ever let your child
be bullied. Stop it if you have to sit in school all day long with your child. Give the Bullies the message that no child of yours will be the target of anyone’s fear. In other words, be more frightening than the Bullies and they will leave your children alone. As for the Bullies, if you are one and want help to stop, there are many people who can support you. I am happy to give references.

Disclaimer:  Our instruments are for experimental purposes only, and the FDA has not approved/evaluated these tools, resources, recommendations, and/or aids. All products, procedures, and information are not intended to diagnose, treat, mitigate, prevent, and/or cure any disease. None of the products, procedures, and information replaces or substitutes for the advice of a practicing medical doctor. See a qualified practicing MD for any disease or medical condition.

The I Ching and Your Mental Health

 As a former psychotherapist with great disappointment in the results of western mental health practices, it only made sense to look to the East for a more effective system for restoring mental and emotional balance. For more than 30 years, our company (I Ching Systems) has applied the mathematical codes found in the I Ching along with the basic principles of Chinese medicine in the development of a revolutionary emotional balancing system. Our goal was to find a pathway to alleviate emotional imbalances immediately at a structural level without having to sit for weeks and maybe years discussing the possible sources of the problems in therapy, often with limited relief at best.

We are a small group composed of former clinical social workers and educators. Our technology involves various hand held instruments designed to be used whenever a person feels out of balance. Western mental health focuses on the content of any problem or situation. The idea is that by talking about the content of a particular situation or event, one can find relief and resolution for that content. Yet, very often talking is not enough to resolve mental and emotional distress or change the long-term outcomes for a person’s life. In some ways, psychotherapy is like going to your mechanic in need of brake pads: instead of fixing your brakes, your mechanic sits with your car, says warm supportive things to your car and then you drive away with the same need for brake pads because the problem never got addressed at its source within the structure of the car.

Please know that we are not against psychotherapy. Counseling and therapy can be magical if the therapist and client genuinely like one another. However, in my opinion, some emotional imbalances are very complex and are held in a “protective” mode, making it difficult to unravel by just talking. If you think about how your computer functions in protective mode, you can see how difficult it can be access the information you need. These survival systems can be traced back to childhood patterns developed during times when the person was under emotional stress. These experiences might include situations in the home with parents who, for whatever reasons, lacked the resources to care for and support their children. Some of these emotional imbalances can also be traced back to exposure to current educational practices that could not be more unnatural for children. Where else in life are children forced to sit still in chairs without being able to use the bathroom when they need to, eat when they are hungry, go outside and play when they feel like it, talk to a friend, say no to a subject that they have no interest in learning, etc.? Where else are people graded using a predetermined bell curve that will only find about 5% of any class worthy of an A? What children learn in school is to act against themselves and to feel safe doing so.

These experiences form electromagnetic circuitry that later become repetitive patterns that keep people locked into the past and unable to move forward in their lives. These circuits are structural in nature and they exist as unresolved mathematical equations in the human consciousness. Talking about the content in this circuitry can be comforting but something much more has to happen to convert the energy trapped in those patterns into something useful and valuable. Again, these are just my personal opinions, but you may notice that what I am saying is observable in your own everyday life.

To solve these structural problems that cause so much emotional imbalance, we looked to the principles of Chinese medicine and the I Ching. Chinese medicine is all about context or structure. It is about viewing the whole person and treating the whole system by supporting everything in the system that is good and life-giving, and working to release anything in the system that is toxic and detrimental. Chinese medicine accounts for how all the parts of each person’s structure are interconnected and how these parts interact with one another.

Chinese medicine recognizes the idea of life force or energy flowing through the consciousness through an organized system of energetic circuitry. And, it recognizes the electromagnetic aspects of the consciousness. These basic principles account, in part, for why acupuncture medicine is so effective. Acupuncture medicine is a system that moves life force or the flow of energy through the electrical system in order to restore balance and harmony. Once in balance, the body has a much greater possibility of repairing itself.

All of our instruments have been built with these principles in mind. Rather than trying to figure out the content of a person’s emotional imbalance, our technology addresses the context or structure in which the imbalance is taking place. Our instruments are designed to address and support the natural flow of life force through a person’s system. At the same time, if used when a person feels out of balance, they are designed to address the energetic circuitry that is causing the imbalances.

To accomplish these goals, we have studied the effects of colors, herbs, minerals, gem stones, metals and so much more, but the real breakthroughs came when we went back to the ancient mathematical codes found in the I Ching, the Chinese Book of Changes. The I Ching is an ancient text that contains sixty-four drawings known as Hexagrams. Each Hexagram is composed of six lines, some lines are solid and some are open. Each Hexagram is different. These Hexagrams with their binary math codes are the basis of the universe. There are 64 Hexagrams and 64 bits or math codes in your computer. Your DNA can be broken down into Hexagrams. Crystals are composed of these math codes and so is the human consciousness.

We can call the solid lines 0’s and they act as closed gates. The broken lines are 1’s and they are open gates. Energy flows through the consciousness tracking these gates. When someone is upset or out of balance mentally and emotionally, there is an open gate that should be closed, or vice versa.  Acupuncture medicine is built on a binary math code system. When a person is in pain, there is a closed gate that should be open and there is too much energy built up behind that gate. The acupuncturist is treating the pain by resetting a person’s gates so that energy can once again flow freely through a person’ systems.

The I Ching Systems instruments were designed on this same principle. You simply hold an instrument whenever you feel out of balance. The instrument is designed to address the flow of energy through the entire consciousness, resetting the gates in order to restore equilibrium. It is hard for some people to imagine that such a system exists. We have all been taught to accept stress and emotional struggles as “normal” and to live with our imbalances as if they were natural. So many people live with and accept painful relationships, jobs they hate, and living situations that do not support their well-being because we have all been taught to adjust into our imbalances rather than to seek resolution. Your mental and emotional health is your most valuable asset. Yet, consider what you do - and do not do - to support and protect that precious asset.

The ancient knowledge and binary math codes of the I Ching may just be the keys to our emotional balance and inner calm. I think we may have found that proverbial “peek in the crack of the cosmic egg,” and for some people this technology may just change your life.

This article was originally published by naturalcures.com, an online alternative and natural medicine library, which has since closed. Reprinted with permission. 

Disclaimer: These Instruments are for experimental purposes only, and the FDA has not approved/evaluated these tools, resources, recommendations, and/or aids. All products, procedures, and information are not intended to diagnose, treat, mitigate, prevent, and/or cure any disease. None of the products, procedures, and information replaces or substitutes for the advice of a practicing medical doctor. See a qualified practicing MD for any disease or medical condition.