Each time you have a conversation with a friend or colleague, you are seeking to resolve an equation. Some relationships are filled with unresolved equations.
We are all in the business of resolving equations every day. In the simplest terms, you are
equation for what will add up to a satisfying meal for you on that day. Each time you have a
conversation with a friend or colleague, you are seeking to resolve an equation. Let’s say
you call your best friend and you talk on the phone for a while. Then, you both instinctively
sense that the conversation is coming to a natural ending. You each find a way to say goodbye that, hopefully, keeps each of you in a balanced place. When both parties end up in a neutral place, we could say the conversation has resulted in a resolved equation.
There are times when we all have conversations that end in an unresolved place. There is a
cashier at my local supermarket who comes from a place of trying to find fault with other
people. She is probably imitating a parent who found fault with her as a child. When
customers come through her checkout aisle, she makes disapproving faces at them and often criticizes the way the customers have placed the groceries on the counter. Many customers, who are sensitive to the cashier’s disapproving tones, will leave the store with emotional imbalances. They will be caught in unresolved equations. The cashier feels some relief each time she criticizes a customer because she has managed to pass off her emotional imbalance on to her customer. But, even the cashier is caught in an unresolved equation because, no matter how many customers she criticizes, she will not be able to resolve the bad feelings she has about herself as a result of growing up with a parent who disapproved of her. This cashier could disapprove of a thousand customers, a million customers, or a hundred million customers and she would still be caught trying to get away from bad feelings about herself that she acquired growing up with a critical parent.
Some relationships are filled with unresolved equations. Bill and Susan have a conflicted
relationship. Two to three times a week they argue very aggressively, which for them is a
substitute for having sex. They yell back and forth at each other and usually end up in
separate rooms in the house, each feeling self-righteous. These conversations end in
unresolved equations, meaning that each party is in a state of emotional imbalance.
Let’s stop for a moment and trace these unresolved equations. Susan grew up in a family
where children were literally seen and not heard. In order to survive and feel safe, children
have to be heard. Parents are supposed to listen to their children and do the best they can to meet the children’s needs. When this does not happen, the child is left with an unresolved
equation or what might also be described as a chronic emotional imbalance. Furthermore,
the child is also thrown into a position of chronically trying to resolve that emotional
imbalance.
For Susan, her survival depended on being able to find a way to get noticed. So Susan
developed a system of escalating her voice and the expression of her needs until someone
paid attention to her. Her system was flawed because the attention that she did receive was
often negative in the form of her parents telling her to be quiet. For Susan, being yelled at
was better than being unnoticed. Now Susan is a grownup but she is still caught trying to
resolve the emotional imbalances from childhood. She has developed a system for trying to
resolve this condition, but her system always leads her back into the same unresolved place.
Susan yells at Bill until he yells back. Then when Bill can’t take any more yelling, Susan
goes off to be alone exactly as she did when she was a child. Ironically, when Susan
having sex. Bill just feels attacked. He tries to defend himself but is usually intimidated by
Susan’s loud voice, so he is unable to discern what she is trying to tell him.
Bill grew up in a family with an alcoholic mother. His mother was volatile and often yelled
at the children when she got drunk. Bill learned very early on to do his best to hide from his
mother when she was drunk. But on two occasions, his mother beat him for very minor
mistakes that Bill had made. Bill learned to hide his feelings and to spend time alone in his
room just for safety. Parents are supposed to make sure that children feel safe and secure.
Yet, Bill lived with a mother who threatened his very survival. These conditions left Bill
with an unresolved mathematical equation. When Susan yells at Bill, he is thrown back into
this emotionally unbalanced place. He yells back at Susan because he tells himself that he
should stand up for himself. But in the end, he backs down because he feels afraid of what
Susan might do or say. Bill also ends up in a room alone just as he did when he was a child,
waiting for Susan to calm down just as he waited for his mother to sober up.
The big question then arises. Can these equations be resolved? The binary math codes found in the 64 I Ching Hexagrams, in our opinion, are the math codes needed for resolution to take place for some people. Unresolved equations create emotional imbalances. We think these unresolved imbalances keep people from fulfilling their destinies. Emotional imbalances consume time and energy and create discomfort. Certainly these ideas are food for thought and well worth some exploration in our lives.
Every I Ching Systems instrument is built with the intention of resolving imbalances and
helping you become the “Witness” to your own life. Real transformation occurs when you
can get off the stage of life and take a seat in the audience. It is the place where you become the observer of your life, the objective, non-judgmental Witness to your own condition. And, it is the Witness in you who can transform your life. Sometimes people need help getting off that stage. Our instruments might be what are needed to change the patterns within families and on the job so that at the end of each day you find yourself in a state of emotional equilibrium with all equations resolved.
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